I am a BEAUTIFUL, SINGLE, child-less 25-y/o woman. I work full time, have my college degree and volunteer on the weekends. I am not saying I am PERFECT, but I think that I am a damn good catch. I have only had 2 maybe 3 serious relationships. 2 of which both men had children from a previous relationship. This has seemed to be my pattern. I always get invloved romantically or sexually with men who are either still hung-up on their exes (ex-girlfreinds, babymama’s etc.) or they are in an undercover relationships with women that they pass off as being casual/nonchalant. I am NO HOMEWRECKER. I am no mistress and I damn sure am not anyone’s second best or waiting for their sloppy seconds. Does anyone know how I can attract and meet SINGLE, preferably child-less men? I live in Atlanta by the way. I am just tired and depressed from getting attached to men who are attached to someone else…
And yes, I do ‘sever’ things when I realize they are attched to someone else.
Gene—wherever you digg up your faux rhetoric, you should try digging a bit deeper. I don’t ‘purposefully’ go into relationships with men I KNOW I can’t have. They are still GOOD men, they just aren’t that into ME—because they are with or attach to someone else. On the other hand, you’re right. The ‘classic’ good guy is a bore and more times that not—I am not physically attracted to him. And TRUST—my future husband won’t be bangin any young chicks on the side. Because he will have outgrown that type of immature display of self-esteem and self centered urges.
Thanks MaryB! That was very sweet. And insightful.
DAD—-that was the REALEST response I’ve gotten from a guy on here EVER. I NEVER looked at it that way, and that’s so TRUE. Great anology. I do want the well-together guy without having to go through the process of getting him there. But then again, where is the guy that is going to condition and train me?
I once asked a psychologist why it was that I always seemed to end up with “bad boys” as if I had something stamped on my forehead that said treat me like crap & use me & she told me that it was because I for some reason was attracted to a certain characteristic that all these men possessed. I believe there is alot of truthe in what she said when I look back at all the guys I have been involved with in the past. This could be the same for you- something about these guys attracts you & you send those kind of signals out that you are interested & then you find out that they are not worthy of your love. The hard part is figuring out what those characteristics are that attract you to them. I still haven’t quite figured it out or maybe I have & still am unwilling to stay away from those kinds of guys. At least you have the common sence to not get too heavily involved once the cat is out of the bag. I hope that someday soon a guy comes along for you who is everything you want in life & is emotionally available to you & ONLY you.
by: Mary B
on: 15th March 08