So, I have been sort of seeing this guy – we’ve been out on a couple dates. We don’t have a lot of communication in between dates – he is very busy with his career and so am I. When we are together he really seems to be into me – we havent had sex but we have had some “makeout” sessions. He always holds and rubs my hand, puts his hand on my back when walking, touches my hair – he kissed my eyelids, stroked my hair.He is very much a gentleman to me opens the car door, helps me w/ my coat. All of his body language suggests he likes me. What I am confused about is his lack of communication between dates – I guess my question is do you really think he is just busy or do you think “hes just not into me” do you think I should just be patient or do you think I should just give up and call it quits. I dont want to get played. I really am interested in him and very attracted to him but my biggest fear is being into someone who isn’t into me so much. I really hate dating, its stinks!
I just wanted to clarify – I know he is busy and so am I, but due to my interest in him I would make time for him – so I guess thats why I just want to see if guys think the same way or if they dont. Also, do you have any suggestions on how I would get more attention out of him (if you think here is hope) – i.e. ignore him/not be so available when HE is, etc. I hate these games and I normally dont play them but I guess I would entertain any good ideas if you think that the game should be played in the begining – the whole “catch” thing. Thanks for your time!
Please no rude answers – I am being sincere and just want anothers opinion before I make a decision. I am new to the dating thing having ended a long term relationship. Also, I understand the whole we are one creature thing but you have to admit men and women think differently or else there would be NO need for marriage counselors!
Chosen Answer:
He is playing his cards right. The lack of communication is suppose to make you think about him more. At the same time he is making himself look like a good professional and priorities set in your mind.
Its all about the game. He is getting you addicted first. Too much too fast is always a bad thing.
by: Van G
on: 6th March 08
14 responses so far ↓
1 Iakona // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:13 am
I think you have issues and like to hear yourself think, chill out.
2 munchkin // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:14 am
We are all from the same world. We are in fact the same species.
3 babii.brown.eyez xO // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:17 am
i am in the same situation! me and my guy talk alot when we’re together but we only text once in a while when we’re apart. if you feel you don’t communicate enough, you should try calling or even texting him first. maybe he’s not sure if you like him and he doesnt wanna make the wrong move. if you show that you wanna talk to him he’ll wanna talk to you more often
4 ramiesmom // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:18 am
Exactly. Don’t make yourself too available. Sometimes when he calls to go out just be too busy, and suggest another time in the near future
5 J-Dub // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:18 am
Any man who spends time with you and is such a “gentleman” without getting sex is into you. Lack of communication between dates? So? I’m married and when I’m at work I don’t call my wife unless it’s an emergency not because I don’t care but because I’m very busy and there’s just no time. When my wife and I were dating I didn’t talk to her for two weeks once, I am positive she thought the same way you do now and now my wife and I are married and have a son with another child on the way. If you are really concerned than just be honest and talk to him about it. If he doesn’t respond well to communication than I would worry about where the relationship is heading.
6 ME m // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:19 am
In this case you might want to be a bit forward and ask him out right. It sounds like he’s doing everything right. There are reasons why he’s not talking during the week. Busy perhaps, even at the worst times, I made sure I called “out of the Blue” just to say, Hi.
7 mojo jojo // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:19 am
well u pretty much knew what u were getting into knowing hes a busy guy & all, keep urself busy & enjoy the moments you can get now. If he wanted a serious relationship, he would know hed have to find time for his girl, so if he isnt yet, maybe he aint looking for soemthing serious.
8 Cool Dude // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:21 am
Whenever i’m into a girl I would usually give her alot of attention, as in I would ask her out as much as I can, make time for her whenever she wants to meet up, etc. So if he is the one always asking you out on these dates, then it sounds like he is interested in you. I usually dont like playing games but what you could also do is invite him out on dates and see if he makes time for you. Personally, if i really liked a girl and she asked me to do something, I would go out of my way to not dissappoint her.
9 Helikaon // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:23 am
If he is acting the way you say he is, then odds are that he does like you, he may actually just be busy. Have you tried making an attempt to communicate with hem, he may feel that he has done everything right and yet you are the one not showing interest. Dating is a two way street, you need to show interest too.
10 sabunim007 // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:24 am
if you feel that he just wants to have sex with you,then you are most likely correct.
He may like the sex and then be more available to you.
You may not like him as much afterwards, or maybe you would.
Men do not know women want.
Men know what they want.
They want women.
11 Randolpho // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:24 am
It is a hard call, I know so0o0o0 many guys that are sweet talkers though. Real guys don’t often be THAT affectionate and attentive. The guys I know that are always buying the flowers and really go out of their way to show a woman respect are always up to something..lol..They treat every woman like it too, tall ,short,fat , skinny, they don’t discriminate . It’s automatic for them, they have their routine.
12 Greg J // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:24 am
We call this kind of guy “The Mamma’s boy”. He’s so polite that you almost want to throw up. He also sounds a little unsure of himself. Guess you’ll have to make the first move. (or moves).
Lotsa Luck.
13 64 Cat // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:25 am
You should let him know how much you enjoy his company. Call him and ask him over for dinner instead of going out. He will probably jump at the chance. Then when you are alone you can tell him that you would like to develop an relationship. Give him a way out though so he does not feel pressured.
14 Van G // Mar 5, 2008 at 11:32 am
He is playing his cards right. The lack of communication is suppose to make you think about him more. At the same time he is making himself look like a good professional and priorities set in your mind.
Its all about the game. He is getting you addicted first. Too much too fast is always a bad thing.
Leave a Comment