So the deal is I am not gay. I never was and always have been attracted to the female body, that’s pretty much what I’m obsessed with, not really but you get the idea haha, it’s just to make a point. When I was younger I was looking at pictures and porn of people naked, woman and men, and was caught by them, and they thought I was gay and basically they were really upset with me. Even before that happened though, my sister and mom used to ask me if I was gay, which really was a bit offensive considering how innocent I was at the time and didn’t really think about sex. My parents are very religious people and attend church all the time. They kept explicitly saying the topic is “homosexuality” as if that was something (I’m a very receptive person with English, speech, body language, etc.). It struck me as odd that this was presented to me this way, and not like an as a matter of fact occurrence, that homosexuality is being studied from a biblical perspective. Do you think I am reading to much into this? Or were they trying to use their wiseness by priming me with words to see if I would react to them? I think homosexuality is an important topic that Christians need to know about, but I sense some covert underlying tones from my parents that I did not like. I don’t have a lot of girlfriends, but occasionally I have them here and there, it’s not something I think about all the time.
Coming to another topic, what I don’t understand is they use the word gay more than I ever had, and really try to determine (in a joking manor) what is “gay” and what is not. These types of thoughts don’t really cross my mind, it after talking to them on the phone from attending this class, it’s like this whole revelation came over them and they are the almighty analysts on the topic. Then on the phone when I asked what the topic was and what not, they said something to the effect that I was a “homophob.” Whenever I asked why did you attend the class, they gave be some kind of answer that sounded per-programmed like oh it’s a great class, anybody can go to it, it’s important, then invariably asking me questions like do you have a problem with it. I’m just confused by the inconsistency of them.
Thanks guys that really is what I’m looking for right now. Honestly I think parents just look for attention and they want the feeling like they are being a parent again, but I’m grown up now and YES I like woman.
Hey funsomethinname, I totally agree, my dad is actually the type of guy that makes more comments about guys on sports teams, haircuts, etc. then I’ve ever heard about. I never make comments about those types of things and have no problems with the gays at all. I mean to me the gays are nice people in our society, I don’t agree with what they do behind closed doors, but I don’t think they should be made fun of, and I think those who do should be in check themselves.
Ask them to bring you some female with whom to have sex, and promise that they can watch, if that’s what it takes to get them to stop BOTHERING you about it.
And if they refuse to actively participate in getting the proof that they (not you) seem to so desperately need, then they are ethically obligated to STOP worrying about it, and stop bothering you about it.
on: 23rd September 11