I hope this isn’t a sensitive topic, but I think it is a real issue. My last question was pretty vague. I’m pretty much a minority ethnicity in the area that I live in. The majority ethnicity probably comprising about 85-90% of the population. When I visit areas where people are of the same race as me, or even where the area is more multi-cultural, I find it pretty easy to attract women. Most of them think I’m really good looking even if they don’t want to date me or they do want to date me. I have been pretty much raised color blind, and I have lots of friends of different races. But when it comes to dating where I live, most women tend to ignore me. I think I may comee off as intimidating or something, but I don’t know. Is it just the area I live in? I’ve never dated outside of my race except for once, but I’d like to explore more – it’s just so much harder to date multi-culturally then it to date within the same culture. Is it just the area I live in? Do I need to move?
Chosen Answer:
Race and ethnicity is one of those while elephants in the From everyone see but no one wants to mention. Because if someone was to say they didn’t like to date this or that, they could be mistaken as being a racist. And no one wants to be considered a racist. But as it showed in a recent TV news show. Many people will go into matchmaking and dating Web sites and say they are open to other races, yet only a small percent actually have the moxie to follow through. Unless the annual income of the other person is many 10s of thousands to 100s of thousands more than the usual guy of the usual race they would date. Some are truly color blind, and some Euro women actually like men of ethnic background. But those who are really true to that are far between. Many think of IF it goes to the point of having kids that the kids would suffer by being in between races, and not fully accepted by any. Being in an area where there is one major race like 85% or better. I do not believe they really know or believe who the person really is because they still in the back of their mind rely on stereotypes.
by: hypocrisy_central
on: 21st April 06
13 responses so far ↓
1 bigtalltom // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:24 am
it isn’t important to me, but it is to a lot of people.
2 tony_j85 // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:25 am
I don’t personally date outside my race, but if it makes you feel good do it! I know alot of guys that do, it’s kinda weird for me to see it, but i don’t shun you for doing it.
3 orlin // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:25 am
Color is only skin deep. If you like the person then you overlook everything else.
4 lostinthejourney // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:26 am
I don’t think it is important… but attraction is. Perhaps that is where race comes in. Are we attracted to folks that look like our family? I would say just like interest, environment, and geographical features are important, finding a possible partner pool is just as important. Maybe move?
5 da_pool_stick // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:27 am
I absolutely don’t believe race/nationality should be a factor in dating. It’s the individual person that counts. (I’ve dated many races/nationalities)
6 stella // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:27 am
It is all in the mind. It does not matter at all. You just lack confidence! Face them all head up! You’ll get urself a date in no time!
7 Childs Puppet♥ // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:28 am
not very important to me
8 ForYourHealth // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:31 am
Probably need to move man. I lived with my last girlfriend for two years, she’s black and I’m white…and we had no problems (other than the fact that her grandfather didn’t like white folks). Generally, people where I live just don’t care. The funny thing is, I live in Mississippi where people who’ve never been here would expect folks to have a HUGE problem with it.
9 maria_viet_beauty // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:32 am
i love dating people of mixed races. its intersting learning the differences. like now, i see that caucasions love asian girls they show a heck of a lot of affection which is so good!
10 lisa // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:37 am
no you dont it has nothing to do with your race and everthing to do with your personality if shes good 4 u
11 jann // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:38 am
no, you dont necessarily need to move.. wow, that was indeed a sensitive topic.
race is important. it is important because your race determines your culture in a way, and your culture influences how you deal with other people, wether or not they are of the same race as yours. i think communication is the issue. it’s not so much about discrimination or anything else. this is because when you get to meet someone not of your race and you’re atracted to each other, discrimination would not be the problem. it’s how the two of you would communicate with and relate to each other. and this is where culture and rce come in. why so? because different cultures give different interaction guidelines for people to follow. if you’re seriously looking for a date, i guess you’ll just have to wait for a sensitive and sensible girl to come your way. someone who values the importance of race as you do. someone who knows how to cross the gap of race/nationality….
12 pasifika love // Apr 16, 2006 at 12:39 am
maybe you re not so attractive as you say you are,,i mean,,probably in your area of expertise..you re not so good at wooing women..Think about this..why is it that women in your culture(or simply) your community find you not charming? Because they know you well,,your reputation,your personality..maybe everything about you.. ! While in foreign places, you re a totally a stranger..I know you dont approved of my opinion but maybe,,just maybe..you shouldn’t be bragging or exaggerate about it too much and tried to live your life to the fullest…..The question you should be asking yourself is…Why should I move out ???
13 hypocrisy_central // Apr 16, 2006 at 1:03 am
Race and ethnicity is one of those while elephants in the From everyone see but no one wants to mention. Because if someone was to say they didn’t like to date this or that, they could be mistaken as being a racist. And no one wants to be considered a racist. But as it showed in a recent TV news show. Many people will go into matchmaking and dating Web sites and say they are open to other races, yet only a small percent actually have the moxie to follow through. Unless the annual income of the other person is many 10s of thousands to 100s of thousands more than the usual guy of the usual race they would date. Some are truly color blind, and some Euro women actually like men of ethnic background. But those who are really true to that are far between. Many think of IF it goes to the point of having kids that the kids would suffer by being in between races, and not fully accepted by any. Being in an area where there is one major race like 85% or better. I do not believe they really know or believe who the person really is because they still in the back of their mind rely on stereotypes.
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