I have a work friend who is married and I’m very attracted to, she is the nicest person I have ever met. Her body language is always inviting and we connect amazingly well. Am I reading her wrong? how do I tell her I want to be with her?
Thanks Kitty, what you said has been running around my mind. I guess I’ll have to be with her in another life 
Thankyou everyone
Chosen Answer:
If you tell her, how do you think she will react? I think it probably will change the work relationship and not for the better. She is married and if she feels something for you, it will have to be on her terms if she tells you. She is in a committed relationship. Her actions maybe inappropriate or just honest flirty but, if you want to keep her as a friend, I think you need to set these feelings aside. Hey, it you want to fantasize about her, so be it, but for it to go any further…it would have to be her move.
by: __________
on: 21st October 09
10 responses so far ↓
1 Ethalene // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:12 am
Baby you have got to leave her alone she is married.
2 Keisha // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:13 am
leave her alone i,magine if someone wanted ur girl
3 kim t // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:14 am
Hello, read my lips ….SHE’S MARRIED, hands off!!!
4 kitty // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:19 am
If you tell her, how do you think she will react? I think it probably will change the work relationship and not for the better. She is married and if she feels something for you, it will have to be on her terms if she tells you. She is in a committed relationship. Her actions maybe inappropriate or just honest flirty but, if you want to keep her as a friend, I think you need to set these feelings aside. Hey, it you want to fantasize about her, so be it, but for it to go any further…it would have to be her move.
5 sasha_anton // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:27 am
Whether you are reading her right or wrong is not the issue. Either way, she’s married so hands off and keep your thoughts to yourself.
6 Destiny // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:28 am
If you care about her that much, think about how you telling her this will affect her and her marriage. Just because she’s flirting doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about her marriage. It just means she’s in need of something she’s not getting right now. She made vows, and as much as you are attracted to her, don’t be selfish. Help her to keep her vows (not break them), because they are important to her.
7 Sandi // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:35 am
That’s crossing a line! You may be mistaking her friendliness for something else. Find someone who is unattached.
8 common sence // Oct 19, 2009 at 5:59 am
Leave her alone.
9 Betty M // Oct 19, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Don’t do it, it will ruin your work relationship with her. Men have the habit of thinking that if a woman is nice to them and talk to them, then she must want to be with him.
Some women are just friendly. There is one really important fact you seem to be over looking. She’s married!!! That makes her off limits to you. If she wanted to be with you, then she wouldn’t be going home to her husband every night.
10 katki11 // Oct 20, 2009 at 12:00 am
The woman sounds like she suffers the same problem as me: niceness. Seriously back off. I was too nice because I only meant to be friendly to a now former guy friend who I assumed only wanted to be friends. When my then boyfriend broke up with me he told me that very day that he liked me and later asked me out in hyperthetics. The more he tried to get closer the more I pushed away until we are now at our current state: I literally turn my back to him. He deserves it though after trying to guilt trip me into dating him.
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