Since i was a child, my mom was acting cold and distant showing no emotions to me.as a result, i am very shy, not very self-confident. And my major problem is that i rationalize EVERYTHING specially when it comes to love. Every relation i try and rationalize it by fear. Fear of rejection,fear of not being loved the way i want to…im considered to be a good looking guy. I already had 1 girlfriend but she left the country in order to study abroad. im 23 years old….its been more than 8 month she left…i had some occasions…i messed up some occasions… i really would like to know how to stop rationalizing, how to stop being affraid of being rejected , how to stop being affraid of thinking that if i go out with a beautiful woman she will cheat on me….there is this woman im attracted to,i had a chance with her but messed it up…she now has a boyfriend…do u think i still got a chance with her?
Move on with your own life ! Thats the best answer I can come with.
Only problem is you have to have a life ! Yest, unfortunately this is true. People like shopping, exercising, running, talking on the phone, hanging out with friends, hanging out with family, studying, music, reading, yoga, spiritual life, building cars, doing home construction, buying gadgets on internet …..
Find a LIFE of your own First. You do need other people to make you happy and and you do need friends and may be a special someone to make your life more color full however, first responsibility is …find a life ! MOVE ON in life …don’t get stuck on this one girl you are attacted to … get involved with your own responsibilities and life issues ….it is a tough world out there …get yourself ready for that !
on: 2nd February 11