dated my ex-boyfriend for 8 months. During that time he didn’t want to be committed and I did. It was a relationship where every time he took a step forward very soon after he would retreat. When I heard he had started having sex with another woman I was devastated, even though he was clear that he wasn’t in a committed place with me- he had told me he wasn’t with anyone else- and when I learned he was, it just broke me. So we broke up.
I love him and over the course of this past year I/we have learned to be in each other’s lives as friends. To outsiders it would appear we’re together, but we aren’t. He is attracted to me, I see it in his face, I feel it in his body language, but he’s also defensive, and at times standofish. When he’s with me alone he talks about the possibility of taking a trip together, or babysitting his neice together, going to dinner, etc.& fooling around but he never makes a move. He likes to be with me, he’s flirty/standofish. Please- what do you guys mean?
a lot of times in situations like this the other peson thinks he or she can do better and is holding off on commiting. someone to have fun with but not be serious about in case something better comes along. like a back up. id say to go find yourself something better, but i know thats hard and i wont push it. if you love him anyway you cant help it. maybe he’ll come around and see hes got something good now too, yeah? like looks arent all that matters. i hope so. good luck.
on: 8th February 08