She begs to go to expensive amusement park, I get tickets, yet she suddenly would rather see Spiderman 3. She is Muslim, from western Africa, & is dark skinned, yet she sees all black women as “ugly”. She loves princesses with blonde hair/ blue eyes like Cinderella whom she describes as “very beautiful” scoffing at the only dark skinned princess Disney ever tried to do a film on, who is also MUSLIM—“Princess Jasmine”. She refers to her as looking “OK” once she said Princess Jasmine was “ugly” & she didn’t want to see any movie that she was in (!!???).She hates it if I say Tyra Banks is one of the world’s most beautiful women! If I say Britney Spears is she is silent but does not go off about how Spears is “ugly” the way she does with Banks. She said that cutting my hair will attract “ghosts” to me & they may kill me at night (!?). I asked what about your father/brothers? Don’t they have short hair? She tells me everything is “different for women”. How to deal w/this? Avoid her? I wish!
The changing her mind from amusement park to seeing the movie thing just sounds like typical adolescent behavior. Annoying, but not BAD. The other stuff…..I don’t know. Perhaps she’s been told that only white women are beautiful or has little self-esteem about how she looks. All I can recommend is to continue to remark on how women of color are beautiful if they come up in conversation and let her know that SHE is beautiful. She’s a pre-teen and pre-teens lack confidence. Show her how ALL women are beautiful, not just Disney’s white princesses.
To the poster below me, Africa is NOTTTTTTTTTT a country. It’s a continent made up of over 50 countries.
on: 23rd November 09